I started a radio show to help give local Nashville (and outside) indie musicians a chance to share their music with the world (or at least the dozen people who listen to my show ;).
My other purpose is to have another outlet to teach others about the law of attraction/law of the universe. I have one lesson/message each week in-between the music and LOVE to hear others stories of how the Law has worked for them or some other positive/inspiring story, and I would LOVE to share people's stories with the world. Imagine a radio show like Delilah, but focused on the Law and other positive/inspiring stories only (not to mention better MUSIC! ;). Who says positive, spiritual people can't ROCK?!
It's every Sunday from 6-9pm (CST) on 88.5 fm in the Nashville area or streaming live online at www.WVCP.net.
I'd love to have you send me a message if you want to share anything on air. Send me a message through my Facebook page: Megan Rox's Indie Rox Show.
7/8/11
Oxy Moron - Simple yet Difficult?
I have several things I want to share, so I am posting twice today. This thought I have is short & sweet yet very powerful.
I am amazed at how simple the law of the universe/law of attraction is yet how difficult it can be to utilize. Once in a while, I think about how simple it is...
I was talking to some people the other day and someone was stressing about not having enough money to make the big out-of-state move that was planned for the end of the week. They recounted how in another big move, they were stressed leading up to it but ended up getting enough money in the end in random ways to be able to move, and I thought, "isn't it interesting that things can be so hectic and stressful when you don't know what the future holds and you have doubts and question whether it will work out and start worrying about 'what if it doesn't' but when you look back, it always ends up working out in the end?"
It makes me think that we could all save ourselves a lot of headache, heartache, stress and anxiety if we just realized it will all work out in the end. If we had faith that this time would be no different than the last hundred times when things just worked themselves out in the end and stopped worrying in the interim, we'd save ourselves a lot of stress. Who would consciously choose the most difficult road to get to where you're going when you could take the easy way? Stressing and worrying just makes things more difficult on yourself (not to mention actually kills you - http://healthandsurvival.com/2008/01/30/stress-kills/).
It's interesting that it seems to be human nature (or maybe societal conditioning?) that people spend a lot of time thinking about what they would do for plan B. What they would do if their ideal situation/desire/dream didn't pan out? Why would you spend more time & energy thinking about what you would do if it didn't pan out than you would thinking about what you will do when it does pan out?
I've heard all sorts of excuses from people who think this way as to why it's the proper, realistic, mature, appropriate, blah, blah, blah, thing to do. Some say they need to mentally prepare themselves for the possible let-down, the possible failure. Doesn't that scream fear of failure or rejection? If you didn't have that fear, you wouldn't feel the need to prepare yourself for the realization of that fear? What happens to people who don't have fear? They never fail in their minds. They just figure out ways that won't work to achieve their dream. And, ultimately, isn't that how we all succeed in doing something anyway? Figuring out what not to do, so we know what TO do. That's how kids learn and you don't see them getting bent out of shape when they try something for the first time and fail. They just get back up and try it again a different way until they figure it out.
There's More Than One Way to Skin a Cat
For those whose excuse is that they need to make sure they can make a living in case their plan/dream doesn't pan out. Well, I say they need to figure out a new way to make a living that can be done at the same time as their plan/dream if it takes longer to manifest than they plan. Why do people tend to think of things in black or white; tend to have dichotomous thinking? Try thinking outside the box. Why couldn't you try a different way to make a living than you currently do? A different slant on your current job? Another possible source of income? If you think, "if I can't do it exactly the way I want or envision, then I don't want it at all", you're being closed-minded (and stubborn?). Who says you know exactly the best way to do something? There's more than one way to skin a cat (sorry cat lovers, shall I say, skin a rat instead?). If you were an expert at what you endeavor to do, you'd already be doing it and successful at it. Think of yourself as a child trying something new for the first time. You might have to go at it a different way. Many people give up when something doesn't work out the way they try it or envision it the first time. Seems pretty limiting and self-defeating, doesn't it? What would happen if children thought this way? They would never learn to walk and Hoverround would be a booming business.
Ok, so again, I think I'm going to share a short thought and I end up rambling on. I'm just so passionate about the law of the universe and about trying to get people to realize it and believe in it and try it. :)
I am amazed at how simple the law of the universe/law of attraction is yet how difficult it can be to utilize. Once in a while, I think about how simple it is...
I was talking to some people the other day and someone was stressing about not having enough money to make the big out-of-state move that was planned for the end of the week. They recounted how in another big move, they were stressed leading up to it but ended up getting enough money in the end in random ways to be able to move, and I thought, "isn't it interesting that things can be so hectic and stressful when you don't know what the future holds and you have doubts and question whether it will work out and start worrying about 'what if it doesn't' but when you look back, it always ends up working out in the end?"
It makes me think that we could all save ourselves a lot of headache, heartache, stress and anxiety if we just realized it will all work out in the end. If we had faith that this time would be no different than the last hundred times when things just worked themselves out in the end and stopped worrying in the interim, we'd save ourselves a lot of stress. Who would consciously choose the most difficult road to get to where you're going when you could take the easy way? Stressing and worrying just makes things more difficult on yourself (not to mention actually kills you - http://healthandsurvival.com/2008/01/30/stress-kills/).
It's interesting that it seems to be human nature (or maybe societal conditioning?) that people spend a lot of time thinking about what they would do for plan B. What they would do if their ideal situation/desire/dream didn't pan out? Why would you spend more time & energy thinking about what you would do if it didn't pan out than you would thinking about what you will do when it does pan out?
I've heard all sorts of excuses from people who think this way as to why it's the proper, realistic, mature, appropriate, blah, blah, blah, thing to do. Some say they need to mentally prepare themselves for the possible let-down, the possible failure. Doesn't that scream fear of failure or rejection? If you didn't have that fear, you wouldn't feel the need to prepare yourself for the realization of that fear? What happens to people who don't have fear? They never fail in their minds. They just figure out ways that won't work to achieve their dream. And, ultimately, isn't that how we all succeed in doing something anyway? Figuring out what not to do, so we know what TO do. That's how kids learn and you don't see them getting bent out of shape when they try something for the first time and fail. They just get back up and try it again a different way until they figure it out.
There's More Than One Way to Skin a Cat
For those whose excuse is that they need to make sure they can make a living in case their plan/dream doesn't pan out. Well, I say they need to figure out a new way to make a living that can be done at the same time as their plan/dream if it takes longer to manifest than they plan. Why do people tend to think of things in black or white; tend to have dichotomous thinking? Try thinking outside the box. Why couldn't you try a different way to make a living than you currently do? A different slant on your current job? Another possible source of income? If you think, "if I can't do it exactly the way I want or envision, then I don't want it at all", you're being closed-minded (and stubborn?). Who says you know exactly the best way to do something? There's more than one way to skin a cat (sorry cat lovers, shall I say, skin a rat instead?). If you were an expert at what you endeavor to do, you'd already be doing it and successful at it. Think of yourself as a child trying something new for the first time. You might have to go at it a different way. Many people give up when something doesn't work out the way they try it or envision it the first time. Seems pretty limiting and self-defeating, doesn't it? What would happen if children thought this way? They would never learn to walk and Hoverround would be a booming business.
Ok, so again, I think I'm going to share a short thought and I end up rambling on. I'm just so passionate about the law of the universe and about trying to get people to realize it and believe in it and try it. :)
When You're Feeling Stress & Anxiety...
I'd like to share with you a technique that I've found effective for relieving negative emotions.
When you're feeling stress, anxiety, frustration, anger, or any negative emotion, it doesn't feel good, does it? We all have the power to control our emotions and thoughts. Ironically, it's simple but not always easy, and also very worth it because who wouldn't want to be able to stop feeling crappy and start feeling good?
I've found love to be the most powerful emotion that can take away my negative emotions. The other week I was feeling stress, anxiety and self doubt about my future. After a few hours of feeling self pity and generally feeling crappy, I thought to myself, this is silly, if I know I have the power to change my thoughts (see Wayne Dyer's book, Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life), why don't I try to get rid of this crappy feeling because it doesn't feel good. So, I laid down in my bed (because it's the only quiet, peaceful room in my house), and said to the universe, I don't want to feel like this anymore so I now release all feelings of self doubt and any other negative emotions. I had to concentrate on visualizing these emotions leaving me and also ask for (and visualize) love from the universe, any helpful/healing spirits/angels out there, and of course, God. You have to have a very open mind and heart for this. I asked for a hug and to feel lots of love and visualized God giving me a big bear hug and could actually imagine what it feels like when someone who loves you gives you a great big hug. And, you know what? I actually felt it. It was the most warm, safe, secure, loving feeling and I felt love washing over me. I no longer felt any negative emotions. I felt nothing but love and basked in that awesome feeling for a while. I did not go back to feeling self doubt or self pity after that. In fact, I was more renewed and inspired than ever and felt like I had a new love for life and people. I couldn't believe how simple it was to get this amazing feeling! I highly recommend everyone try it, especially if you find yourself feeling crappy.
You can also do it with a specific loved one, dead or alive. I've done it before with my grandma who passed away about 5 years ago. For some reason, I feel a stronger spiritual connection with those who have passed. Anyway, it's great because when you really open yourself and your mind and concentrate and visualize them giving you a hug, you can really feel it! Try it sometime if you're really missing a loved one who has passed. What do you have to lose? Nothing. What do you have to gain? Feeling great.
If anyone has tried this (or something like it) and would like to share your experience/benefits, I'd love to hear it.
I have a radio show on Sunday evenings from 6-9pm (CST) on 88.5 fm in the Nashville area or www.WVCP.net streaming live online. If you'd like to share your similar experiences on this stuff or even just a comment, I'd love to hear it. Feel free to post on my Facebook page or call in during my radio show. I love to share others inspiring stories on my show!
When you're feeling stress, anxiety, frustration, anger, or any negative emotion, it doesn't feel good, does it? We all have the power to control our emotions and thoughts. Ironically, it's simple but not always easy, and also very worth it because who wouldn't want to be able to stop feeling crappy and start feeling good?
I've found love to be the most powerful emotion that can take away my negative emotions. The other week I was feeling stress, anxiety and self doubt about my future. After a few hours of feeling self pity and generally feeling crappy, I thought to myself, this is silly, if I know I have the power to change my thoughts (see Wayne Dyer's book, Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life), why don't I try to get rid of this crappy feeling because it doesn't feel good. So, I laid down in my bed (because it's the only quiet, peaceful room in my house), and said to the universe, I don't want to feel like this anymore so I now release all feelings of self doubt and any other negative emotions. I had to concentrate on visualizing these emotions leaving me and also ask for (and visualize) love from the universe, any helpful/healing spirits/angels out there, and of course, God. You have to have a very open mind and heart for this. I asked for a hug and to feel lots of love and visualized God giving me a big bear hug and could actually imagine what it feels like when someone who loves you gives you a great big hug. And, you know what? I actually felt it. It was the most warm, safe, secure, loving feeling and I felt love washing over me. I no longer felt any negative emotions. I felt nothing but love and basked in that awesome feeling for a while. I did not go back to feeling self doubt or self pity after that. In fact, I was more renewed and inspired than ever and felt like I had a new love for life and people. I couldn't believe how simple it was to get this amazing feeling! I highly recommend everyone try it, especially if you find yourself feeling crappy.
You can also do it with a specific loved one, dead or alive. I've done it before with my grandma who passed away about 5 years ago. For some reason, I feel a stronger spiritual connection with those who have passed. Anyway, it's great because when you really open yourself and your mind and concentrate and visualize them giving you a hug, you can really feel it! Try it sometime if you're really missing a loved one who has passed. What do you have to lose? Nothing. What do you have to gain? Feeling great.
If anyone has tried this (or something like it) and would like to share your experience/benefits, I'd love to hear it.
I have a radio show on Sunday evenings from 6-9pm (CST) on 88.5 fm in the Nashville area or www.WVCP.net streaming live online. If you'd like to share your similar experiences on this stuff or even just a comment, I'd love to hear it. Feel free to post on my Facebook page or call in during my radio show. I love to share others inspiring stories on my show!
5/29/11
Every Decision is a Good One
I've discovered (well, really just come to accept) that every decision really is a good one. I've come to have complete trust in the universe that it will give me whatever is best for me. In that newfound trust, I feel like a giant weight has been lifted off my shoulders. I no longer have to fret, stress and analyze (ad nauseum) when I have to make decisions. I know that any decision I make will bring me closer to my goal whether it will show me what I don't like or want or whether it will open my eyes to a new path to my goal that I hadn't previously seen or thought or known about.
Knowing that the universe really will take the seed of desire you plant and run with it to your best interest/highest good, is a very comforting feeling. No longer do I feel the need to control & analyze or worry about every step of my life. I can't tell you how big of an impact this has had on my life - how much of a relief it is to not worry about everything. I used to be prone to worrying or over-analyzing every step of my goals. I would set goals and set up the steps I thought I had to take to reach my goals and if one of the steps didn't pan out, I would stress & worry that I wouldn't reach my goal. Needless to say, my life is so much more enjoyable now that I don't feel the need to control every little step on my path.
I know the universe knows what's best for me even better than I do, when I give it my ultimate desire - when I plant that seed. There are endless possibilities/ways to reach any goal and I am not aware of all of them. The universe is aware though and will tell you. How does it tell you? Through your intuition. You know when you get a feeling you should do something or contact someone, etc...? This is your intuition. You should always listen to your intuition. Having trouble hearing your intuition or distinguishing it from your mental chatter? Meditate. This is the best way to quiet your mind and get the information the universe is trying to give you.
I'm just enjoying watching what the universe will unfold for me to help me reach my desires. I continue to try to stay open minded for doors opening or new paths unfolding that might not seem related to my desires/goals. I also continue to try to keep listening to my intuition and keep my mind clear to hear information the universe gives me. And, I continue to keep my ultimate desire in mind. It's exciting to watch my unique path unfold.
This is definitely not the easy way out. It is very challenging to have the belief in something greater than you and trust it will give you what's best for you. It's very challenging to give up control of the small stuff. You will also be shown issues/blocks you've had for a long time probably that will prevent you from achieving your desires. It's not easy to confront, accept and work through these long-standing issues (e.g. emotional scars, bad habits, beliefs that no longer serve you). I've had subconscious emotional issues that have surfaced in the last couple years and for one of them, I cried for a week straight. Once I worked through that however, I felt like a giant weight was lifted off my shoulders and was able to get more clarity about my desires.
I have a problem with a some of the law of attraction authors, books, movies, etc... (like "the secret") that say it's so easy. I feel that's misleading. It's great in that it probably attracts people to want to learn more about it and give it a try. However, it doesn't prepare people for when they are faced with difficult issues they need to work through in order to be able to utilize the law. I've seen many people give it a try and when they realize how difficult it can be, they give up.
I'm here to tell you that it is not easy BUT it's very worth it!
Knowing that the universe really will take the seed of desire you plant and run with it to your best interest/highest good, is a very comforting feeling. No longer do I feel the need to control & analyze or worry about every step of my life. I can't tell you how big of an impact this has had on my life - how much of a relief it is to not worry about everything. I used to be prone to worrying or over-analyzing every step of my goals. I would set goals and set up the steps I thought I had to take to reach my goals and if one of the steps didn't pan out, I would stress & worry that I wouldn't reach my goal. Needless to say, my life is so much more enjoyable now that I don't feel the need to control every little step on my path.
I know the universe knows what's best for me even better than I do, when I give it my ultimate desire - when I plant that seed. There are endless possibilities/ways to reach any goal and I am not aware of all of them. The universe is aware though and will tell you. How does it tell you? Through your intuition. You know when you get a feeling you should do something or contact someone, etc...? This is your intuition. You should always listen to your intuition. Having trouble hearing your intuition or distinguishing it from your mental chatter? Meditate. This is the best way to quiet your mind and get the information the universe is trying to give you.
I'm just enjoying watching what the universe will unfold for me to help me reach my desires. I continue to try to stay open minded for doors opening or new paths unfolding that might not seem related to my desires/goals. I also continue to try to keep listening to my intuition and keep my mind clear to hear information the universe gives me. And, I continue to keep my ultimate desire in mind. It's exciting to watch my unique path unfold.
This is definitely not the easy way out. It is very challenging to have the belief in something greater than you and trust it will give you what's best for you. It's very challenging to give up control of the small stuff. You will also be shown issues/blocks you've had for a long time probably that will prevent you from achieving your desires. It's not easy to confront, accept and work through these long-standing issues (e.g. emotional scars, bad habits, beliefs that no longer serve you). I've had subconscious emotional issues that have surfaced in the last couple years and for one of them, I cried for a week straight. Once I worked through that however, I felt like a giant weight was lifted off my shoulders and was able to get more clarity about my desires.
I have a problem with a some of the law of attraction authors, books, movies, etc... (like "the secret") that say it's so easy. I feel that's misleading. It's great in that it probably attracts people to want to learn more about it and give it a try. However, it doesn't prepare people for when they are faced with difficult issues they need to work through in order to be able to utilize the law. I've seen many people give it a try and when they realize how difficult it can be, they give up.
I'm here to tell you that it is not easy BUT it's very worth it!
5/7/11
Don't Ask Yourself What the World Needs...
Don't ask yourself what the world needs, ask what makes you come alive because what the world needs is people coming alive.
I love this quote the minister of our church said the other week. It makes me second guess my thoughts in my last post.
By the way, I will probably find new, different, and sometimes even contradicting information from one post to the next because this blog is more of a journal than facts. I try to give advice based on what I believe at the time is the best information I have but it is subject to change. You get to be on this journey with me as I learn & discover the law of the universe/law of attraction and hopefully it will be helpful to you along the way.
I previously thought that in order for you to be able to manifest something, it had to necessarily be beneficial to others also. Some people believe this and when they told me that, it seemed logical at the time. However, as I'm learning more and more about the universal law in the weekly class I'm taking at my church (part of the International Centers for Spiritual Living "religion"), I see that this is not a rule you have to adhere to in order for your desires to manifest.
Each person is unique and has unique talents and abilities. If each person followed their instincts and did what excited them, not what others or society said they should be doing, the world would be full of love and inspiration and therefore it would be a better world for everyone. So, an effect of your doing this, will end up helping others anyway.
Free to Follow the Beat of My Own Drummer
This would be a perfect mantra (or bumper sticker) for me. In order to utilize the universal law, people need to trust that the universe will open doors and bring necessary others and opportunities to you to help you continue to follow doing what you love. This trust is hard to keep especially when your instincts & heart seem to be calling you to follow the beat of a different drummer.
You will be surprised at how amazing this works when you follow what feels right for you. The hard part seems to be figuring out what is right for you. As I go along and try to follow the law of attraction/law of the universe, I seem to keep coming back to this same question because new choices always come up and I find myself re-evaluating what is right for me to help me make the right decision for me at the time. For instance, currently, I'm feeling some resistance when I try to use the law to get a tenure-track, FT teaching position at the college I'm currently adjuncting at that I love. I do love teaching and like the cultural and people at the school but I'm having occasional doubts. I don't know if the doubts are due to fear that I won't get the job because I don't have much teaching experience or due to my instincts telling me it's not quite right for me. It's very difficult to distinguish and a mentor at church recommended I meditate about it to see what, deep down, at my core, I feel about it. Your spirit & body is the best guide (as long as you're in good mental & physical health - this is a whole other discussion I've been thinking about that I'll have to do another post on). Overall, I think you should follow what feels good to you. I've found that when in doubt, I should meditate to get clarity on what feels good to me.
Another thing that seems to get in the way of following the law is impatience and doubt when it doesn't happen for you in your short timeline. I like the following analogy to help with this. Desires are like flowers or plants - you plant the seed in the universe and have to keep believing in it to "water" it. It takes time to grow. And, just like when a seedling often encounters some resistance as it breaks through the ground's surface, you might encounter resistance as you continue to follow through with your ultimate desire. Very timely to this concept, I just saw a documentary about Martin Luther King, Jr. I didn't know just how much resistance he encountered throughout his lifetime, but he continued pushing what he believed in. I think resistance doesn't always come in the form of external resistance from others or society, but also frequently comes from internal forms such as fear, doubt and the many other negative emotions we feel at times. The thing to remember is that these are normal and not a reason to pull up your seedling and give up. I usually feel a lot of anxiety when I succomb to these emotions and this impatience. It's easy to try to relieve your anxiety in unhealthy ways (overeating, shopping, drinking or doing drugs). If you want any chance at successfully using the law of attraction, you CANNOT relieve your uncomfortable-ness this way! The best way I've found to relieve these negative emotions is to meditate. There are some great (free) guided meditation podcasts in itunes.
Another good solution is to find company in others who support you and have similar perspectives/mentalities and/or are doing similar things. Seeking out a person(s) or venue specifically for support - those who are able to help you is also very important.
If anyone has any comments, even if you'd like to debate or discuss contrary information, I'd love to hear it. Hearing all perspectives and opinions is helpful to me on my learning journey, so
feel free to post a comment!
I love this quote the minister of our church said the other week. It makes me second guess my thoughts in my last post.
By the way, I will probably find new, different, and sometimes even contradicting information from one post to the next because this blog is more of a journal than facts. I try to give advice based on what I believe at the time is the best information I have but it is subject to change. You get to be on this journey with me as I learn & discover the law of the universe/law of attraction and hopefully it will be helpful to you along the way.
I previously thought that in order for you to be able to manifest something, it had to necessarily be beneficial to others also. Some people believe this and when they told me that, it seemed logical at the time. However, as I'm learning more and more about the universal law in the weekly class I'm taking at my church (part of the International Centers for Spiritual Living "religion"), I see that this is not a rule you have to adhere to in order for your desires to manifest.
Each person is unique and has unique talents and abilities. If each person followed their instincts and did what excited them, not what others or society said they should be doing, the world would be full of love and inspiration and therefore it would be a better world for everyone. So, an effect of your doing this, will end up helping others anyway.
Free to Follow the Beat of My Own Drummer
This would be a perfect mantra (or bumper sticker) for me. In order to utilize the universal law, people need to trust that the universe will open doors and bring necessary others and opportunities to you to help you continue to follow doing what you love. This trust is hard to keep especially when your instincts & heart seem to be calling you to follow the beat of a different drummer.
You will be surprised at how amazing this works when you follow what feels right for you. The hard part seems to be figuring out what is right for you. As I go along and try to follow the law of attraction/law of the universe, I seem to keep coming back to this same question because new choices always come up and I find myself re-evaluating what is right for me to help me make the right decision for me at the time. For instance, currently, I'm feeling some resistance when I try to use the law to get a tenure-track, FT teaching position at the college I'm currently adjuncting at that I love. I do love teaching and like the cultural and people at the school but I'm having occasional doubts. I don't know if the doubts are due to fear that I won't get the job because I don't have much teaching experience or due to my instincts telling me it's not quite right for me. It's very difficult to distinguish and a mentor at church recommended I meditate about it to see what, deep down, at my core, I feel about it. Your spirit & body is the best guide (as long as you're in good mental & physical health - this is a whole other discussion I've been thinking about that I'll have to do another post on). Overall, I think you should follow what feels good to you. I've found that when in doubt, I should meditate to get clarity on what feels good to me.
Another thing that seems to get in the way of following the law is impatience and doubt when it doesn't happen for you in your short timeline. I like the following analogy to help with this. Desires are like flowers or plants - you plant the seed in the universe and have to keep believing in it to "water" it. It takes time to grow. And, just like when a seedling often encounters some resistance as it breaks through the ground's surface, you might encounter resistance as you continue to follow through with your ultimate desire. Very timely to this concept, I just saw a documentary about Martin Luther King, Jr. I didn't know just how much resistance he encountered throughout his lifetime, but he continued pushing what he believed in. I think resistance doesn't always come in the form of external resistance from others or society, but also frequently comes from internal forms such as fear, doubt and the many other negative emotions we feel at times. The thing to remember is that these are normal and not a reason to pull up your seedling and give up. I usually feel a lot of anxiety when I succomb to these emotions and this impatience. It's easy to try to relieve your anxiety in unhealthy ways (overeating, shopping, drinking or doing drugs). If you want any chance at successfully using the law of attraction, you CANNOT relieve your uncomfortable-ness this way! The best way I've found to relieve these negative emotions is to meditate. There are some great (free) guided meditation podcasts in itunes.
Another good solution is to find company in others who support you and have similar perspectives/mentalities and/or are doing similar things. Seeking out a person(s) or venue specifically for support - those who are able to help you is also very important.
If anyone has any comments, even if you'd like to debate or discuss contrary information, I'd love to hear it. Hearing all perspectives and opinions is helpful to me on my learning journey, so
feel free to post a comment!
3/22/11
When the Student is Ready, the Teacher Will Appear
Have you ever heard the phrase, when the student is ready, the teacher will appear? I had but it had been a long time ago until I read it in the first Conversations With God book recently. I believe it's true but with the rate of change that has been exponentially growing over the last few decades and the global consciousness & paradigm shift and evolution revolution that is due in 2012, I wonder if change is happening to people who aren't sure if they're ready. Of course, are we ever really ready for major change?
I find a passage I recently read in a Science of Mind periodical, Creative Thought, pertinent to this topic and thought provoking and inspiring. It's titled stepping into newness. It relates the life of a toddler, just learning to walk and learning something new every minute to an adult faced with and going through change. It's funny because a toddler doesn't seem to mind the discomfort that comes from having to learn so many new things at once. They don't get frustrated and give up when they misjudge a step and fall and they don't hesitate because they're worried about failing or worried what people will think of them if they fall or worry that people will belittle them because they can't run, jump or talk. People have much more patience for children learning new things than they do for themselves learning new things - especially if it's due to change that you have no control over and are forced to learn something you haven't done before. Forced change can be things like losing a job, foreclosing on or losing your house, or divorce. These types of major life change are especially difficult to step back and try to take a different perspective and realize it might be that your path needed to change and the universe made it happen for you.
When we encounter change, whether it's entering into a new paradigm, adopting a new protocol, embodying a new idea, embarking on a new course, or even unpleasant forced changes like those I listed above - there is a period of discomfort and fear that stops many people from embracing that change and realize it's going to be beneficial in the long run. Change is an opportunity to grow and become more effective. Many people's fear of making a mistake hinders or even prevents them from allowing this to happen. We simply can't stand still - change is inevitable.
The only difference between a toddler and us is that we have an expectation around who we are or who we believe others should perceive us to be. One thing I've learned lately is that the ego is very powerful. The ego's fear of failure, making a mistake or embarrassment, can prevent us from growing. I think if we recognize that it is just that, the ego, and we can separate ourselves from our egos in order to allow positive change to happen, we can have an easier time of it. The other thing that happens when we separate ourselves from our ego is our spirit's and God's voice becomes more clear. In my experience, as long as I listen to and trust my spirit's and God's voice and wisdom, everything will end up for the best.
It's easier said than done to let go of your ego. I, personally, am prone to over-analyzing things. When my analysis of what my spirit/God is telling me (through my gut instinct and what my heart tells me - let me know if you want me to write a separate blog about recognizing the "voice" of your spirit and God) doesn't seem to make sense or seem to be feasible based on my rationale and what I think is possible, I used to dismiss or ignore that voice. I blocked positive change from occurring and blocked myself from moving to the next step on my ideal path or from jumping to a higher level. My mental analysis of it probably told me that it wasn't possible or would be too difficult to accomplish. The discomfort of trying it would be undesirable.
To quote Creative Thought (May 2009):
Every positive change - every jump to a higher level of energy and awareness - involves a rite of passage. Each time, to ascend to a higher rung on the ladder of personal evolution, we must go through a period of discomfort, of initiation. I have never found an exception.
I think this quote also applies to the greater, global evolution shift that is occurring and is supposed to "happen" in 2012.
To tie this idea back to today's topic, you should go for what you feel is right for you and what you desire, but know that it won't be easy. My parents used to say (when I was complaining about how difficult college was at times) nothing good comes easy. But it helps to remember one of my favorite quotes - If God brings you to it, He will bring you through it. If you're facing change, you must be ready for it or it wouldn't have come to you. Trust this and trust that God, the teacher, will lead the way.
I find a passage I recently read in a Science of Mind periodical, Creative Thought, pertinent to this topic and thought provoking and inspiring. It's titled stepping into newness. It relates the life of a toddler, just learning to walk and learning something new every minute to an adult faced with and going through change. It's funny because a toddler doesn't seem to mind the discomfort that comes from having to learn so many new things at once. They don't get frustrated and give up when they misjudge a step and fall and they don't hesitate because they're worried about failing or worried what people will think of them if they fall or worry that people will belittle them because they can't run, jump or talk. People have much more patience for children learning new things than they do for themselves learning new things - especially if it's due to change that you have no control over and are forced to learn something you haven't done before. Forced change can be things like losing a job, foreclosing on or losing your house, or divorce. These types of major life change are especially difficult to step back and try to take a different perspective and realize it might be that your path needed to change and the universe made it happen for you.
When we encounter change, whether it's entering into a new paradigm, adopting a new protocol, embodying a new idea, embarking on a new course, or even unpleasant forced changes like those I listed above - there is a period of discomfort and fear that stops many people from embracing that change and realize it's going to be beneficial in the long run. Change is an opportunity to grow and become more effective. Many people's fear of making a mistake hinders or even prevents them from allowing this to happen. We simply can't stand still - change is inevitable.
The only difference between a toddler and us is that we have an expectation around who we are or who we believe others should perceive us to be. One thing I've learned lately is that the ego is very powerful. The ego's fear of failure, making a mistake or embarrassment, can prevent us from growing. I think if we recognize that it is just that, the ego, and we can separate ourselves from our egos in order to allow positive change to happen, we can have an easier time of it. The other thing that happens when we separate ourselves from our ego is our spirit's and God's voice becomes more clear. In my experience, as long as I listen to and trust my spirit's and God's voice and wisdom, everything will end up for the best.
It's easier said than done to let go of your ego. I, personally, am prone to over-analyzing things. When my analysis of what my spirit/God is telling me (through my gut instinct and what my heart tells me - let me know if you want me to write a separate blog about recognizing the "voice" of your spirit and God) doesn't seem to make sense or seem to be feasible based on my rationale and what I think is possible, I used to dismiss or ignore that voice. I blocked positive change from occurring and blocked myself from moving to the next step on my ideal path or from jumping to a higher level. My mental analysis of it probably told me that it wasn't possible or would be too difficult to accomplish. The discomfort of trying it would be undesirable.
To quote Creative Thought (May 2009):
Every positive change - every jump to a higher level of energy and awareness - involves a rite of passage. Each time, to ascend to a higher rung on the ladder of personal evolution, we must go through a period of discomfort, of initiation. I have never found an exception.
I think this quote also applies to the greater, global evolution shift that is occurring and is supposed to "happen" in 2012.
To tie this idea back to today's topic, you should go for what you feel is right for you and what you desire, but know that it won't be easy. My parents used to say (when I was complaining about how difficult college was at times) nothing good comes easy. But it helps to remember one of my favorite quotes - If God brings you to it, He will bring you through it. If you're facing change, you must be ready for it or it wouldn't have come to you. Trust this and trust that God, the teacher, will lead the way.
3/12/11
New finding in "the catch"
I have been continuing to ask the universe and pray about this "catch" I've discovered in the law of attraction and ....... get ready for it......
I've found the answer!
I found the answer in a class at this new church I started attending (that doesn't believe in hell btw - hallelujah). It takes the class through the first Conversations with God book. It's a great beginning book to read btw, if you're wanting to start learning about the new thought philosophy (of which the law of attraction is a part). Anyway, here is the answer...
You can't manifest something unless you feel in every cell of your body and heart that it's something you really believe you can have or do.
This sounds simple and it is, yet at the same time it's very complicated. I think your spirit/soul has to agree with the desire that your ego creates and this often doesn't happen and when it doesn't happen, you don't get that 100% sure feeling that whatever it is is meant for you.
The key here is ego. The ego is very powerful and gets in the way of life paths and manifestations all the time. In fact, I've just recently had a major life shift when I released my ego's part in my ultimate manifestation. I should change the title of this blog now because I have changed my ultimate life goal that I want to manifest. I realized it was my ego that was holding on to the dream of wanting to become a rock star like Madonna or Lady Gaga and that I really didn't feel in my heart that was the exact path for me. It was a difficult decision to let go of this dream that I've had for such a long time now, but I feel it was getting in the way of me realizing my ideal, unique path and life goal. It took a strong faith in God and the universe to let go and believe that if I follow my heart and not my ego, things will end up even better than I could have imagined with my former rockstar dream.
I realized that what really fulfills me and makes me feel blissful is helping people achieve their dreams and be happier in their lives in general. I feel it is my calling and path in life to do this on a mass level (e.g., not just helping one or two people every day but helping hundreds if not thousands). I still love singing very much and am not leaving that out of the mix. I believe there is a way to combine my love for singing and helping people. This is my unique path that I am now using the law of attraction for. I have never felt more connected with anything like I have this desire and I feel with 100% confidence and with every cell of my body that I can and will do it.
I believe that we unconsciously put unnecessary limits on our desires. We have to stop thinking that there's something wrong with wanting the best or most or biggest success. The ocean of abundance has plenty to go around for everyone. It's not like if we take more than our share, someone else won't get as much. I like what the minister at my church says you should do when you ask for something. Say what it is you desire but follow that up with "or something better". I think many times, the universe gives us what we want, but it doesn't happen in quite the same way we imagined it or doesn't follow a typical/ traditional path. We need to have faith that we will get what we want (if we follow the "catch law" I've explained above), and be open to it manifesting in different, unique ways.
An example of not following the "catch law"...
A couple years ago when I was first learning about and trying out the law of attraction, I tried using it to manifest a job I interviewed for. I followed everything it said to do and think but did not end up getting the job. I was telling myself that I really wanted this job and all the reasons it would be perfect for me and that I was totally capable of doing a good job, but I now realize that telling yourself you really want something can fool you into believing it but I look back and see that my heart wasn't completely in it. I thought it was at the time because I kept telling myself it was just so the law of attraction would work. You can fool your mind and ego, but you can't fool the universe. If your spirit isn't in accordance with your desire, you simply will not be able to manifest it. This is a good thing though. If I would have gotten that job, it might have distracted me from or prolonged my necessary soul searching period that helped me figure out the job and path that WAS in accordance with my spirit.
I've found the answer!
I found the answer in a class at this new church I started attending (that doesn't believe in hell btw - hallelujah). It takes the class through the first Conversations with God book. It's a great beginning book to read btw, if you're wanting to start learning about the new thought philosophy (of which the law of attraction is a part). Anyway, here is the answer...
You can't manifest something unless you feel in every cell of your body and heart that it's something you really believe you can have or do.
This sounds simple and it is, yet at the same time it's very complicated. I think your spirit/soul has to agree with the desire that your ego creates and this often doesn't happen and when it doesn't happen, you don't get that 100% sure feeling that whatever it is is meant for you.
The key here is ego. The ego is very powerful and gets in the way of life paths and manifestations all the time. In fact, I've just recently had a major life shift when I released my ego's part in my ultimate manifestation. I should change the title of this blog now because I have changed my ultimate life goal that I want to manifest. I realized it was my ego that was holding on to the dream of wanting to become a rock star like Madonna or Lady Gaga and that I really didn't feel in my heart that was the exact path for me. It was a difficult decision to let go of this dream that I've had for such a long time now, but I feel it was getting in the way of me realizing my ideal, unique path and life goal. It took a strong faith in God and the universe to let go and believe that if I follow my heart and not my ego, things will end up even better than I could have imagined with my former rockstar dream.
I realized that what really fulfills me and makes me feel blissful is helping people achieve their dreams and be happier in their lives in general. I feel it is my calling and path in life to do this on a mass level (e.g., not just helping one or two people every day but helping hundreds if not thousands). I still love singing very much and am not leaving that out of the mix. I believe there is a way to combine my love for singing and helping people. This is my unique path that I am now using the law of attraction for. I have never felt more connected with anything like I have this desire and I feel with 100% confidence and with every cell of my body that I can and will do it.
I believe that we unconsciously put unnecessary limits on our desires. We have to stop thinking that there's something wrong with wanting the best or most or biggest success. The ocean of abundance has plenty to go around for everyone. It's not like if we take more than our share, someone else won't get as much. I like what the minister at my church says you should do when you ask for something. Say what it is you desire but follow that up with "or something better". I think many times, the universe gives us what we want, but it doesn't happen in quite the same way we imagined it or doesn't follow a typical/ traditional path. We need to have faith that we will get what we want (if we follow the "catch law" I've explained above), and be open to it manifesting in different, unique ways.
An example of not following the "catch law"...
A couple years ago when I was first learning about and trying out the law of attraction, I tried using it to manifest a job I interviewed for. I followed everything it said to do and think but did not end up getting the job. I was telling myself that I really wanted this job and all the reasons it would be perfect for me and that I was totally capable of doing a good job, but I now realize that telling yourself you really want something can fool you into believing it but I look back and see that my heart wasn't completely in it. I thought it was at the time because I kept telling myself it was just so the law of attraction would work. You can fool your mind and ego, but you can't fool the universe. If your spirit isn't in accordance with your desire, you simply will not be able to manifest it. This is a good thing though. If I would have gotten that job, it might have distracted me from or prolonged my necessary soul searching period that helped me figure out the job and path that WAS in accordance with my spirit.
1/15/11
The "Catch" of the Law of Attraction
When I tell many people about the law of attraction, they look like they are humoring me but have disbelief. They are probably thinking, this is too good to be true - there must be a catch. Well, I have discovered the "catch", if you want to call it that, to the law of attraction. You can't expect to manifest anything/everything you want. I think many people, authors, books, etc, on the law of attraction are misleading because many of them say you can manifest anything you want. I have found that this is not true. There are conditions. However, it's probably in your best interest ultimately that you can't just get whatever you want whenever you want it. I have had many fleeting desires in my life (who hasn't) and not all of them would have been best for me at the time or ever for that matter if they were to manifest.
Ester Hicks/Abraham say you have to hold yourself in a vibrational pattern that matches the vibration of your desire for it to manifest. This is a very difficult concept to understand (at least for me). This is actually a key component to the law of attraction that I think many people misunderstand and is what causes many people from believing the whole thing even works at all.
The details of this concept are what I'm currently trying to learn more about and understand. Just when I think I understand, I talk to people (who are also believers in metaphysics and the law of attraction) who make me realize I'm not so sure I understand. The thing that I find difficult to understand is how your "sacred contract" and the desires that you're trying to manifest relate to or affect each other. If your desires conflict with your sacred contract, are you still able to manifest them?
Ester Hicks/Abraham say you have to hold yourself in a vibrational pattern that matches the vibration of your desire for it to manifest. This is a very difficult concept to understand (at least for me). This is actually a key component to the law of attraction that I think many people misunderstand and is what causes many people from believing the whole thing even works at all.
The details of this concept are what I'm currently trying to learn more about and understand. Just when I think I understand, I talk to people (who are also believers in metaphysics and the law of attraction) who make me realize I'm not so sure I understand. The thing that I find difficult to understand is how your "sacred contract" and the desires that you're trying to manifest relate to or affect each other. If your desires conflict with your sacred contract, are you still able to manifest them?
11/18/10
Who surrounds you?
I felt moved to write again after a while. I want to share some brief thoughts on the significance of who & what you surround yourself with. It has more of an affect on you than you might realize. It's important to assess who you have chosen to surround yourself with and carefully choose who you will surround yourself with from this point forward.
Do you have someone in your life who brings you down somehow? Do you have a choice to be around this person or not? If so, take control over what you do have control over and do not continue to be around this person. If not (e.g., a negative or evil co-worker), it will take some effort, but try not to be around them or the circle they're in as much as possible. Obviously, use your discretion if you feel they're overstepping the usual boundaries and speak up to a supervisor or HR. Btw, if it's your family who is bringing you down, you do have a choice on how often you surround yourself or maintain contact with them. Even though it's often "required" to spend holidays with family, and you don't want to alienate yourself from them, you don't have to be around them any other time if you don't want to and you can choose how much you're going to make them a part of your life.
On the flip side, do you feel no one understands you or shares your passion or beliefs about something? Then you need to seek out those who do. Surrounding yourself with these people can re-affirm and inspire your beliefs and passion.
Another reason to step back and assess who you're surrounding yourself with once in a while is because we all change (ideally) and sometimes, if, in our personal growth and development, we discover that previous beliefs, values, thought patterns or behaviors are no longer serving us well, or are holding us back from becoming the person we want to be, or worse yet, are negatively affecting our mental/emotional well-being, it's a good idea to detach ourselves from certain people who used to share those things. It doesn't have to be an abrupt, negative, "I don't want to be friends with you anymore" kind of detachment. You can just start to seek out and surround yourself more often with others who share your beliefs, values, thought patterns or behaviors.
Assessing who you surround yourself with is a great self improvement/growth/development tool too. Sometimes, when people assess who they're surrounding themselves with, it's like discovering parts of themselves they might not have realized before - like looking in a mirror for the first time. It's a biological/sociological fact that people are attracted to those who are similar to themselves. So, if you realize that your friends are a certain way (for example, shallow and judgemental) you should take a look at yourself and evaluate whether this is the kind of person you really want to be.
Rome Was Not Built By One Person
If you are striving to be a certain kind of person and/or do a certain thing in life, know that you can't do it alone. There is so much power in the encouragement, affirmation, inspiration and strength that friends/acquaintances can give us! I know some people who believe they should be able to achieve great things all by themselves or else there is something wrong with them. They dismiss dreams or passions of doing something just because they don't have all of the skills, knowledge, money or other that it might take to complete. These are all things you can acquire from others if you believe in yourself, your vision and the law of attraction. The only thing that you MUST have is passion. You can surround yourself with others who are doing the same or similar things who will give you encouragement, affirmation, inspiration and strength to follow your passion. You can talk to these people who are successful at doing same/similar things to get the advice/knowledge and skills that you might not have. They can help you figure out what you need to do and you can develop a clear focus of your end goal (the other component needed to allow the law of attraction work). Many successful business people have a business partner who have certain knowledge or skills they themselves don't have. In fact, I just saw an interview with a very successful person who said they wouldn't have been able to excel if they had not focused on one aspect of their business and had spread themselves too thin. Barbara Sher has devoted her life to this teamwork aspect of achieving your dreams. She has a lot of great advice & resources... www.barbarasher.com
Since I love to help people realize and achieve their dreams, my posts seem to always lead to the law of attraction by the end regardless of where they start. :)
To close, I will share with you a piece of advice a wonderful, wise, successful man* recently shared with me: create a binder and fill it with things that are associated with your passion/dream and continue to add things that make you feel good - whether it be clipping out a page in a magazine or newspaper or printing a link/page from the internet or a picture you or someone else has taken.
If anyone tries this, let me know what happens after a little while.
*p.s. I met this wise man at a meeting I just discovered of people who believe anyone can achieve anything they want because of the power of the mind, universe and law of attraction. I have spent my first year in Nashville seeking out like-minded people who were doing or believed in things I wanted. I continue to meet, be recommended to and "coincidentally" discover amazing people whose love, belief, passion and affirmation have helped me continue on my path and get even closer to achieving my dream.
Have a Happy Thanksgiving!
Do you have someone in your life who brings you down somehow? Do you have a choice to be around this person or not? If so, take control over what you do have control over and do not continue to be around this person. If not (e.g., a negative or evil co-worker), it will take some effort, but try not to be around them or the circle they're in as much as possible. Obviously, use your discretion if you feel they're overstepping the usual boundaries and speak up to a supervisor or HR. Btw, if it's your family who is bringing you down, you do have a choice on how often you surround yourself or maintain contact with them. Even though it's often "required" to spend holidays with family, and you don't want to alienate yourself from them, you don't have to be around them any other time if you don't want to and you can choose how much you're going to make them a part of your life.
On the flip side, do you feel no one understands you or shares your passion or beliefs about something? Then you need to seek out those who do. Surrounding yourself with these people can re-affirm and inspire your beliefs and passion.
Another reason to step back and assess who you're surrounding yourself with once in a while is because we all change (ideally) and sometimes, if, in our personal growth and development, we discover that previous beliefs, values, thought patterns or behaviors are no longer serving us well, or are holding us back from becoming the person we want to be, or worse yet, are negatively affecting our mental/emotional well-being, it's a good idea to detach ourselves from certain people who used to share those things. It doesn't have to be an abrupt, negative, "I don't want to be friends with you anymore" kind of detachment. You can just start to seek out and surround yourself more often with others who share your beliefs, values, thought patterns or behaviors.
Assessing who you surround yourself with is a great self improvement/growth/development tool too. Sometimes, when people assess who they're surrounding themselves with, it's like discovering parts of themselves they might not have realized before - like looking in a mirror for the first time. It's a biological/sociological fact that people are attracted to those who are similar to themselves. So, if you realize that your friends are a certain way (for example, shallow and judgemental) you should take a look at yourself and evaluate whether this is the kind of person you really want to be.
Rome Was Not Built By One Person
If you are striving to be a certain kind of person and/or do a certain thing in life, know that you can't do it alone. There is so much power in the encouragement, affirmation, inspiration and strength that friends/acquaintances can give us! I know some people who believe they should be able to achieve great things all by themselves or else there is something wrong with them. They dismiss dreams or passions of doing something just because they don't have all of the skills, knowledge, money or other that it might take to complete. These are all things you can acquire from others if you believe in yourself, your vision and the law of attraction. The only thing that you MUST have is passion. You can surround yourself with others who are doing the same or similar things who will give you encouragement, affirmation, inspiration and strength to follow your passion. You can talk to these people who are successful at doing same/similar things to get the advice/knowledge and skills that you might not have. They can help you figure out what you need to do and you can develop a clear focus of your end goal (the other component needed to allow the law of attraction work). Many successful business people have a business partner who have certain knowledge or skills they themselves don't have. In fact, I just saw an interview with a very successful person who said they wouldn't have been able to excel if they had not focused on one aspect of their business and had spread themselves too thin. Barbara Sher has devoted her life to this teamwork aspect of achieving your dreams. She has a lot of great advice & resources... www.barbarasher.com
Since I love to help people realize and achieve their dreams, my posts seem to always lead to the law of attraction by the end regardless of where they start. :)
To close, I will share with you a piece of advice a wonderful, wise, successful man* recently shared with me: create a binder and fill it with things that are associated with your passion/dream and continue to add things that make you feel good - whether it be clipping out a page in a magazine or newspaper or printing a link/page from the internet or a picture you or someone else has taken.
If anyone tries this, let me know what happens after a little while.
*p.s. I met this wise man at a meeting I just discovered of people who believe anyone can achieve anything they want because of the power of the mind, universe and law of attraction. I have spent my first year in Nashville seeking out like-minded people who were doing or believed in things I wanted. I continue to meet, be recommended to and "coincidentally" discover amazing people whose love, belief, passion and affirmation have helped me continue on my path and get even closer to achieving my dream.
Have a Happy Thanksgiving!
8/15/10
Love
I recently realized the amazing power of love. My life, my path, and everything else can be a lot simpler than I realized if I just use my heart and love to guide me.
I had heard this before from other wise people in my life and I used to think, oh, love, blah blah blah, isn't that nice, but life isn't all rainbows and butterflies and love and stuff. I never actually tapped into the true power of love. I wasn't able to do this before because I didn't fully love myself. This is what blocks a lot of people from being able to harness the full power of love and manifest their desires. As simple as it sounds, it's a lot easier said than done, to fully love yourself.
There are many subconscious reasons people aren't able to fully love themselves. Obviously, a low self-esteem is closely related to how much you love yourself. Guilt and fear are other powerful emotions that block people from fully loving themselves. I've also found that perfectionism hinders being able to fully love yourself because you're worried about either being perfect, performing perfectly, everything in your life going perfectly, or you flat out avoid going for what you desire because you have a fear of not being able to be successful to the perfectionistic level/standards you set for yourself.
Once I was able to ask God and all my spirit guides to help me feel loved (you can ask them to literally hug you and you will feel that warm loving feeling all around your body), I started feeling loved and that I was worthy of being loved and deserved love and success. So much so, that my heart felt overflowing with love for not just myself, but others. Love is unique in that it is more contagious than anything I can think of. Once I feel full of love, it's so powerful, it feels like my whole life perspective changes. I want to do the things that make me feel that warm fuzzy feeling love gives me - the things I love. Suddenly, all the doubt, fear or other mental chatter that blocked me from fully doing what I love disappears and all I can think about is that great warm fuzzy feeling, that bliss I feel when I'm actually doing what I love (singing). When I'm full of love, I also want to share it with others and feel love for others, even those people for whom love isn't exactly the first emotion I feel when I'm around them (especially these people, because they are usually the ones who need love the most).
I've noticed that when I sing and I'm feeling full of love, I sing better. I'll bet if you tried doing something after trying to harness that full-of-love feeling that makes your heart feel overflowing with love, whatever you do will be better.
You can also use your heart to help you make decisions and to guide you on your path. If you want to know how to do this, let me know. Maybe I'll write about it in a future post, but for now, I must run.
In summary, you can be successful if you do what you love and do it with love. There are obviously other factors to success, but I really believe that love is the foundation.
I had heard this before from other wise people in my life and I used to think, oh, love, blah blah blah, isn't that nice, but life isn't all rainbows and butterflies and love and stuff. I never actually tapped into the true power of love. I wasn't able to do this before because I didn't fully love myself. This is what blocks a lot of people from being able to harness the full power of love and manifest their desires. As simple as it sounds, it's a lot easier said than done, to fully love yourself.
There are many subconscious reasons people aren't able to fully love themselves. Obviously, a low self-esteem is closely related to how much you love yourself. Guilt and fear are other powerful emotions that block people from fully loving themselves. I've also found that perfectionism hinders being able to fully love yourself because you're worried about either being perfect, performing perfectly, everything in your life going perfectly, or you flat out avoid going for what you desire because you have a fear of not being able to be successful to the perfectionistic level/standards you set for yourself.
Once I was able to ask God and all my spirit guides to help me feel loved (you can ask them to literally hug you and you will feel that warm loving feeling all around your body), I started feeling loved and that I was worthy of being loved and deserved love and success. So much so, that my heart felt overflowing with love for not just myself, but others. Love is unique in that it is more contagious than anything I can think of. Once I feel full of love, it's so powerful, it feels like my whole life perspective changes. I want to do the things that make me feel that warm fuzzy feeling love gives me - the things I love. Suddenly, all the doubt, fear or other mental chatter that blocked me from fully doing what I love disappears and all I can think about is that great warm fuzzy feeling, that bliss I feel when I'm actually doing what I love (singing). When I'm full of love, I also want to share it with others and feel love for others, even those people for whom love isn't exactly the first emotion I feel when I'm around them (especially these people, because they are usually the ones who need love the most).
I've noticed that when I sing and I'm feeling full of love, I sing better. I'll bet if you tried doing something after trying to harness that full-of-love feeling that makes your heart feel overflowing with love, whatever you do will be better.
You can also use your heart to help you make decisions and to guide you on your path. If you want to know how to do this, let me know. Maybe I'll write about it in a future post, but for now, I must run.
In summary, you can be successful if you do what you love and do it with love. There are obviously other factors to success, but I really believe that love is the foundation.
7/12/10
My life's paradigm shift
I have recently experienced something that can only be described as a paradigm shift of my life's beliefs and perspectives. I've had a couple of these in the past year as I'm moving toward spiritual "enlightenment".
What seemed at the time to be a devastating break in my relationship with my mom, has turned out to be a positive shift in my beliefs and life perspective. After I had time to ponder it and talk it out with friends, and realized what was really happening, it felt like a giant weight had lifted off my shoulders. It felt like a door to my future had just opened.
First, I want to say that last month, I met with a psychic at the Galactic fair who told me that I was like a butterfly who was about to exit the coccoon and spread my wings and fly away and achieve my dreams, but first I had to let go of past beliefs that will not serve me on my future path and were limiting me from achieving what I want as well as using the law of attraction. I knew much of this already (from my intuition and spirit guides) but it was nice to have it validated by someone else.
So, I asked my mom for advice on how to talk to my new boss because I was experiencing challenges with my new job. Our conversation somehow turned to her judging many of my past decisions (on many things, not work-related) and making me feel bad about bad decisions I have made in the past. I felt very upset, especially because I had called her to get support when I was feeling stressed and I ended up getting the opposite. I know she did not intentionally make me upset and was just acting as a protective mother and not the supportive friend I was expecting.
Usually, in the past, I would feel crappy about myself and my abilities and my self-esteem would go down after having a similar conversation with my mom. I did feel like this for a brief period after this conversation, but for some reason, this time, I started to think differently. It really helped talking to a friend who experienced the same thing and helped me realize that my mom's beliefs, many of which used to be my beliefs, were very different from mine now and were not useful to me on my current/future path. Most importantly, I realized for the first time I did not need her approval to know that what I am doing and the decisions I am making to fulfill my dreams and desires are right. This is a big boost to my self confidence. Knowing that she didn't approve of or agree with my decisions, was always a conflict that was weighing on me and is now lifted. I feel more free than ever! Although at the time, I felt devastated when I realized I just wasn't going to get the approval I hoped for and that I wouldn't be able to rely on her supporting my new path to rockstardom and my journey toward spiritual fulfillment.
It isn't an easy thing to accept that many of your core/fundamental beliefs are no longer useful and that the person you have always leaned on for support is not able to give you that support. It was also hard to realize that I am growing farther apart from my mom in these fundamental beliefs and perspectives on life. It was ironic to me when I realized how much I felt I needed her approval at my age. It was like a comfortable safety net but I now feel strong and confident enough to not need anyone else's approval but my own (well, realistically, probably my husband's ;). This realization alone, makes me feel more free and confident than ever. I feel fully able to take the next steps toward fulfilling my desires. I don't need my mom's support when I have the universe to support me!
I find it funny that in theory, I believed what Wayne Dyer says - that you can't look for approval (or something like that, I can't remember the exact word) in anyone else but yourself. These are wise words, and are often easier said than done. Many people, and I would argue probably everyone, have certain beliefs and feelings they are not conscious of but yet control their actions. Just like in my instance above, I wasn't aware how much I needed my mother's approval and how much it was holding me back from moving forward on my path. How was I able to finally realize it? I intuitively sensed (and confirmed from others) that I was approaching a new phase in my life, one that would lead me to my dream of rockstardom, but that I needed to let go of some past beliefs that would not be useful to me in this new phase, and would hold me back from fully stepping into this phase. I didn't know what these beliefs were, but I just prayed and asked God and my spirit guides and the universe (all other beings out there) to help me see what these beliefs are and release them.
* Btw, this is why having a strong faith/belief in your intuition and spiritual guidance is imperative to moving forward with your path to your dreams. * You may not understand what you sense, but you have to believe it's true and right for you. From the time I first sensed this (what I described above), it was 2 months of asking/praying to see and release these beliefs that were holding me back. I said to the universe (God, spirits, etc...) and felt in my heart that I was ready to face and accept whatever was going to come at me because I intuitively knew it was the only way I was going to move forward toward becoming a rockstar, and I want it so badly, I'm willing to face anything.
The universe sure gave it it me! This incident with my mom happened the same week that I got in a car accident and my cell phone died. I almost got into a big funk for a bit there, wollowing in my sorrows and pity that my life felt like it was collapsing around me. A couple years ago, I would have probably gotten into a depression after that, but now, because I'm so close with my spirit and the universe, they (God, spirit guides, etc..) didn't let me and I listened to their guidance to get me through. One example is when I was in my jazz vocal class last week and I forgot all about the relatively minor things that were happening to me compared to my destiny. I felt very lucky that nothing major happened to me in the accident, specifically to my voice, and that if I still had my voice, that's all I needed. I was reminded that singing heals my spirit and it was what I was meant to do. I was just happy I was still able to do it, and better yet, I was doing it! I felt a strong reassurance that I was on the right path and it felt great! It made the minor shit that life sometimes throws at you not mean so much. I knew then that I would just focus on chugging along with my dreams.
Watch out world, I'm like a freight train! I'm going to keep on the rockstar train no matter what gets thrown at me.
I'm still waiting to see what good will come of the car accident. ;) I'll let you know in my next blog.
What seemed at the time to be a devastating break in my relationship with my mom, has turned out to be a positive shift in my beliefs and life perspective. After I had time to ponder it and talk it out with friends, and realized what was really happening, it felt like a giant weight had lifted off my shoulders. It felt like a door to my future had just opened.
First, I want to say that last month, I met with a psychic at the Galactic fair who told me that I was like a butterfly who was about to exit the coccoon and spread my wings and fly away and achieve my dreams, but first I had to let go of past beliefs that will not serve me on my future path and were limiting me from achieving what I want as well as using the law of attraction. I knew much of this already (from my intuition and spirit guides) but it was nice to have it validated by someone else.
So, I asked my mom for advice on how to talk to my new boss because I was experiencing challenges with my new job. Our conversation somehow turned to her judging many of my past decisions (on many things, not work-related) and making me feel bad about bad decisions I have made in the past. I felt very upset, especially because I had called her to get support when I was feeling stressed and I ended up getting the opposite. I know she did not intentionally make me upset and was just acting as a protective mother and not the supportive friend I was expecting.
Usually, in the past, I would feel crappy about myself and my abilities and my self-esteem would go down after having a similar conversation with my mom. I did feel like this for a brief period after this conversation, but for some reason, this time, I started to think differently. It really helped talking to a friend who experienced the same thing and helped me realize that my mom's beliefs, many of which used to be my beliefs, were very different from mine now and were not useful to me on my current/future path. Most importantly, I realized for the first time I did not need her approval to know that what I am doing and the decisions I am making to fulfill my dreams and desires are right. This is a big boost to my self confidence. Knowing that she didn't approve of or agree with my decisions, was always a conflict that was weighing on me and is now lifted. I feel more free than ever! Although at the time, I felt devastated when I realized I just wasn't going to get the approval I hoped for and that I wouldn't be able to rely on her supporting my new path to rockstardom and my journey toward spiritual fulfillment.
It isn't an easy thing to accept that many of your core/fundamental beliefs are no longer useful and that the person you have always leaned on for support is not able to give you that support. It was also hard to realize that I am growing farther apart from my mom in these fundamental beliefs and perspectives on life. It was ironic to me when I realized how much I felt I needed her approval at my age. It was like a comfortable safety net but I now feel strong and confident enough to not need anyone else's approval but my own (well, realistically, probably my husband's ;). This realization alone, makes me feel more free and confident than ever. I feel fully able to take the next steps toward fulfilling my desires. I don't need my mom's support when I have the universe to support me!
I find it funny that in theory, I believed what Wayne Dyer says - that you can't look for approval (or something like that, I can't remember the exact word) in anyone else but yourself. These are wise words, and are often easier said than done. Many people, and I would argue probably everyone, have certain beliefs and feelings they are not conscious of but yet control their actions. Just like in my instance above, I wasn't aware how much I needed my mother's approval and how much it was holding me back from moving forward on my path. How was I able to finally realize it? I intuitively sensed (and confirmed from others) that I was approaching a new phase in my life, one that would lead me to my dream of rockstardom, but that I needed to let go of some past beliefs that would not be useful to me in this new phase, and would hold me back from fully stepping into this phase. I didn't know what these beliefs were, but I just prayed and asked God and my spirit guides and the universe (all other beings out there) to help me see what these beliefs are and release them.
* Btw, this is why having a strong faith/belief in your intuition and spiritual guidance is imperative to moving forward with your path to your dreams. * You may not understand what you sense, but you have to believe it's true and right for you. From the time I first sensed this (what I described above), it was 2 months of asking/praying to see and release these beliefs that were holding me back. I said to the universe (God, spirits, etc...) and felt in my heart that I was ready to face and accept whatever was going to come at me because I intuitively knew it was the only way I was going to move forward toward becoming a rockstar, and I want it so badly, I'm willing to face anything.
The universe sure gave it it me! This incident with my mom happened the same week that I got in a car accident and my cell phone died. I almost got into a big funk for a bit there, wollowing in my sorrows and pity that my life felt like it was collapsing around me. A couple years ago, I would have probably gotten into a depression after that, but now, because I'm so close with my spirit and the universe, they (God, spirit guides, etc..) didn't let me and I listened to their guidance to get me through. One example is when I was in my jazz vocal class last week and I forgot all about the relatively minor things that were happening to me compared to my destiny. I felt very lucky that nothing major happened to me in the accident, specifically to my voice, and that if I still had my voice, that's all I needed. I was reminded that singing heals my spirit and it was what I was meant to do. I was just happy I was still able to do it, and better yet, I was doing it! I felt a strong reassurance that I was on the right path and it felt great! It made the minor shit that life sometimes throws at you not mean so much. I knew then that I would just focus on chugging along with my dreams.
Watch out world, I'm like a freight train! I'm going to keep on the rockstar train no matter what gets thrown at me.
I'm still waiting to see what good will come of the car accident. ;) I'll let you know in my next blog.
6/11/10
More Ways the Law of Attraction Has Worked in My Life
I didn't realize it has been 2 months since my last post! Funny how fast time flies.
So, I recently had an event happen in my life that I thought would be good to talk about in my blog, and then I thought of one cool thing that happened a year ago that I wanted to talk about here too.
First, I have been asking for a well-paying job that I enjoyed that still left time for me to pursue music, and I just found it. I just got offered a permanent, part-time consulting job with a consulting firm in Indianapolis, so I get to work from home (or on the road when my band starts touring), get to do work that I enjoy (most of the time), and get paid as much as many full-time jobs only working part-time, which of course leaves plenty of time for my music. It doesn't offer health insurance, but that's not a big deal because I can just get individual health insurance that won't be too expensive because Dave & I are still young and healthy. And it sounds like in the near future, with Obama's new health plan, we might actually be able to have our individual health insurance plan pay for pre-existing conditions.
The other incident I wanted to tell you about happened a year ago. I was in the Puerto Rico airport coming home and I missed my flight earlier that morning and there was only one flight back to Chicago shortly after my original flight and the next one wasn't until later that night. I was told I could go on standby but that the flight was completely booked and had some people on the standby list ahead of me. It looked like there was no way I was getting on that flight and the attendant didn't seem very optimistic. They didn't know the powers of the mind & universe that I was about to use. The whole time I was waiting, I was trying hard to expect that I would get on and envision in my head that they called my name and I walked onto the plane. They ended up having a few empty seats that were filled by the people ahead of me on the standby list. I didn't give up hope though. You'll never believe what happened! After the last people boarded the plane and 10 minutes had gone by, they wheeled an old man and his wife off the plane and the attendant called my name. He was pretty surprised and told me it was my lucky day. The old man apparently had taken too many sleeping pills and had become incoherent and his wife was worried and took him off. Two seats miraculously opened up for me. The guy next to me on the plane who had sat next to the old man told me he how lucky I was. Little did he know, it wasn't just luck. ;)
In case you're curious, things are going great with my band, Scale Model. Our new recordings turned out great and we played a great first show with our new band members and look forward to our second in a couple weeks. We've been busy making press kits to send to independent record labels, radio stations around the country and press for review. We'd love to be able to pay a publicist to do much of this as it's quite a task and we'd like to focus on writing new music and booking shows and tours. We're lucky enough to have a friend (the drummer who played on our recordings) know a music attorney here who works at a full-service company that does music management, booking, publicity, publising, recording and law. She does press, marketing & management also, and has generously agreed to meet with us next week to give us advice. We're hoping she will be willing to take us on as a client for this type of thing.
We're planning a long weekend tour which will include Chicago in August as well as playing a festival here in Nashville. I can't wait to play a show in Chicago again. We hope to play a festival in Indianapolis in September.
You can keep up with our schedule and hear our new tunes on myspace: www.myspace.com/scalemodel
So, I recently had an event happen in my life that I thought would be good to talk about in my blog, and then I thought of one cool thing that happened a year ago that I wanted to talk about here too.
First, I have been asking for a well-paying job that I enjoyed that still left time for me to pursue music, and I just found it. I just got offered a permanent, part-time consulting job with a consulting firm in Indianapolis, so I get to work from home (or on the road when my band starts touring), get to do work that I enjoy (most of the time), and get paid as much as many full-time jobs only working part-time, which of course leaves plenty of time for my music. It doesn't offer health insurance, but that's not a big deal because I can just get individual health insurance that won't be too expensive because Dave & I are still young and healthy. And it sounds like in the near future, with Obama's new health plan, we might actually be able to have our individual health insurance plan pay for pre-existing conditions.
The other incident I wanted to tell you about happened a year ago. I was in the Puerto Rico airport coming home and I missed my flight earlier that morning and there was only one flight back to Chicago shortly after my original flight and the next one wasn't until later that night. I was told I could go on standby but that the flight was completely booked and had some people on the standby list ahead of me. It looked like there was no way I was getting on that flight and the attendant didn't seem very optimistic. They didn't know the powers of the mind & universe that I was about to use. The whole time I was waiting, I was trying hard to expect that I would get on and envision in my head that they called my name and I walked onto the plane. They ended up having a few empty seats that were filled by the people ahead of me on the standby list. I didn't give up hope though. You'll never believe what happened! After the last people boarded the plane and 10 minutes had gone by, they wheeled an old man and his wife off the plane and the attendant called my name. He was pretty surprised and told me it was my lucky day. The old man apparently had taken too many sleeping pills and had become incoherent and his wife was worried and took him off. Two seats miraculously opened up for me. The guy next to me on the plane who had sat next to the old man told me he how lucky I was. Little did he know, it wasn't just luck. ;)
In case you're curious, things are going great with my band, Scale Model. Our new recordings turned out great and we played a great first show with our new band members and look forward to our second in a couple weeks. We've been busy making press kits to send to independent record labels, radio stations around the country and press for review. We'd love to be able to pay a publicist to do much of this as it's quite a task and we'd like to focus on writing new music and booking shows and tours. We're lucky enough to have a friend (the drummer who played on our recordings) know a music attorney here who works at a full-service company that does music management, booking, publicity, publising, recording and law. She does press, marketing & management also, and has generously agreed to meet with us next week to give us advice. We're hoping she will be willing to take us on as a client for this type of thing.
We're planning a long weekend tour which will include Chicago in August as well as playing a festival here in Nashville. I can't wait to play a show in Chicago again. We hope to play a festival in Indianapolis in September.
You can keep up with our schedule and hear our new tunes on myspace: www.myspace.com/scalemodel
4/30/10
Listen to your feelings
So much for posting every week. Well, I got in a funk for a few weeks and lost touch with my spiritual side. I was tired of feeling negative emotions/feelings and thinking about what I didn't have instead of focusing on what I want to have so I got back in touch with my spirit and started trying to use the law of attraction again. It never fails me.
Whenever I find myself not in touch with my spirit like I'd like to be or if things don't feel quite right, or if I'm not seeing my life unfolding the ways I want, meditation is a great way to get back in touch with my spirit and gain clarity. If you're new to meditation, it helps to listen to a guided meditation. I found a couple cool free podcasts on itunes that I like to listen to on my iphone before I go to bed every night. One is called Meditation Oasis, and the other is Learn to Meditate.
Another way I get back on track (or stay on track) is read a daily quote from my law of attraction app (for iphone) from Hay House called Ask and it is Given.
A recent conversation with a friend made me think that fear is a more common emotion that people have than I realized. Fear only serves us when it's our instincts telling us danger is near. It does not serve us when it's just irrational thoughts that are repeated so much that we feel and believe they're true. I see in my own life and in others, fear holding us back from manifesting all that we want. Whether it be holding us back from taking that first step in making a change or holding us back from believing we are capable of manifesting anything we want.
I heard this and love it.... F.E.A.R. = False Evidence Appearing Real
So, I have been keeping track of ways the law of attraction has been working in my life...
Whenever I find myself not in touch with my spirit like I'd like to be or if things don't feel quite right, or if I'm not seeing my life unfolding the ways I want, meditation is a great way to get back in touch with my spirit and gain clarity. If you're new to meditation, it helps to listen to a guided meditation. I found a couple cool free podcasts on itunes that I like to listen to on my iphone before I go to bed every night. One is called Meditation Oasis, and the other is Learn to Meditate.
Another way I get back on track (or stay on track) is read a daily quote from my law of attraction app (for iphone) from Hay House called Ask and it is Given.
A recent conversation with a friend made me think that fear is a more common emotion that people have than I realized. Fear only serves us when it's our instincts telling us danger is near. It does not serve us when it's just irrational thoughts that are repeated so much that we feel and believe they're true. I see in my own life and in others, fear holding us back from manifesting all that we want. Whether it be holding us back from taking that first step in making a change or holding us back from believing we are capable of manifesting anything we want.
I heard this and love it.... F.E.A.R. = False Evidence Appearing Real
So, I have been keeping track of ways the law of attraction has been working in my life...
We were starting to stress over money but I realized that was useless and was sucking my energy so I consciously tried using the law of attraction for abundance and 3 days later, we got a check in the mail for $400 from the gas company in Chicago. Apparently, we had a credit from our account before we moved that we didn’t know about and they just sent us a check for it!
I was wanting to plant a vegetable garden this spring and was researching the best way to do it since I have never had a garden before and the soil down here is different from Chicagoland and is not ideal for gardening. I found a google group – East Nashville – that posted that their gardening club was having a free class the following weekend for beginners on planning a vegetable garden!
We found the ideal rhythm section after only a few months of looking (ask anyone who has put a top notch band together, it usually takes more than a few months). They were actually the first people we met with.
3/8/10
First post
At an uncle's suggestion, I am starting a journal of all of the ways that the law of attraction is working in my quest to follow my dreams. I am not an expert on the law of attraction, but am testing it as I learn more about it. I’ll throw in some educational information on things I learn along the way. I welcome your comments and anything you'd like to share about your own experience with the law of attraction.
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