The ego is not beneficial to you and your happiness/success. As I've said before, emotions that come from the ego are anything that's not love or stemming from love (like compassion, forgiveness...). Competition is one ego-based emotion I'd like to talk about today.
As with any emotion that's from the ego, if you allow yourself to continue feeling them, you are blocking yourself from being connected with your higher self/God/the universal life force/all that is and that's what will bring you guidance, ultimate peace, happiness and success. So, it has been my goal for a while now to not allow anything to get in the way of my connection with that and my life has constantly improved because of it. In fact, my life has been so awesome this year, every time I thought it couldn't get any better it does! You too can feel like that! (it's my mission to help others do so).
It's natural to feel ego-based emotions like competition, jealousy, judging others, etc... because our society has taught us it's ok to think/feel these things, but as you work to improve your spiritual/personal development, you pay attention to your thoughts & feelings and notice when you start to feel any ego-based emotion and can stop yourself right away and choose to feel compassion, forgiveness and love to yourself and others instead. Notice I said to yourself too. This is because we subconsciously project our own emotions/thoughts onto others, so when we are angry at someone for their behavior, we're subconsciously angry at ourselves for being the same way/thing. This goes for competitiveness too. If you judge others for being competitive, you are actually not liking that part of yourself that is competitive. When you can recognize this, and you can forgive yourself for feeling competitive sometimes, you can then forgive others for their competitiveness. Same goes for any emotion. In the path to spiritual development (and "enlightenment"), we are human and aren't perfect. We slip up sometimes (though less and less frequently and for shorter periods of time when we're really connected with our higher selves). We just need to forgive ourselves and others for not being perfect.
Competition is not good or beneficial to you in any way. If you need competition to motivate yourself to get going and do something instead of just talking about doing something, than there's something blocking you from doing what you want to do (fear). Doing something because you want to compete with or be better than someone else is putting a wedge in-between your connection with your spirit/higher self & higher power.
Those who have a close connection with spirit know that you can achieve anything your heart desires and that there is plenty of abundance to go around for everyone, AND that each person's path is so unique, you can't possibly compare your path to anyone else's. ALSO, if you realize that we're all connected anyway, there's no need to compare yourself to or compete with anyone.
I promise you, that if you follow the spiritual development path that I'm teaching (based on all of my favorite teachings of many wise teachers/speakers/authors), you will not even have the tendency to feel competition or jealousy toward anyone. You will rejoice that others are following their passions and are becoming successful at it because what the world needs is more people doing this as it makes everyone more happy and loving.
Trust me, the societal belief that there's only so much to go around is NOT TRUE. This idea has been perpetuated by people who fear there isn't enough to go around. You don't want to follow fear.
I was inspired to write about this in lieu of big government competition going on. I have successfully ignored almost all of it (including all of the arguing based on non-factual info on facebook). I don't feel good getting involved in competition and arguments, so I don't. Most of what politicians say is a lie anyway - their job is to say whatever they think their constituents want to hear so they can get re-elected and keep their job.
I don't do anything that doesn't feel good. This is my life motto, and it should be yours too. Love feels good. Fear does not. I do not let myself wallow in fear (or any fear-based emotion) and my life is much better because of it. (incidentally, I've been manifesting shit like crazy lately! I'll have to write about it in a separate post).
Follow your heart. Do It. Do It Tonight (not just the title of my song which you can listen to here)
10/28/12
10/18/12
Manifestation at It's Finest
Things have been coming to me left and right. Everything from big to small. I want to share with you some of the instances so that you can see proof that the way of living I've learned and am using to achieve ultimate happiness, love and manifest what you desire actually works!
(If you're reading this and you are one of the people I talk about, I'm SO glad I met you and THANK YOU for everything you've done to help me - even if it seemed small, you never know how much of an impact your actions will have on someone else. I couldn't have done anything without help. I get by with a little help from my friends... If we all help each other, we can move mountains!)
I have a habit of leaving my thumb drive in the computer in my classroom when I leave or it fell out of my bag on the way to school once, so Dave suggested I get one of those thumb drives that are attached to a keychain so if I forget it in the computer, I won't get far because my car keys would be on it. I was thinking about how I needed one of those and the next day, I had the notion to go through my briefcase in my bedroom that I haven't used in a year and has been collecting dust. It so happened that a keychain thumb drive was in the pocket of that briefcase. I had forgotten I had one of those!
Another instance: I have really been thinking about how my band needs people who want to help us achieve success, whether its in a small or big way. One way in particular we needed help in was making a music video. I couldn't wait, I wanted to get something up on youtube at least for the time being. I had the urge to start playing around with iMovie on my laptop and I was having fun putting photos and video clips to some of our songs. When I was doing it for one of our songs, Airstream in Space, a girl I know popped into my head. She creates cool space cat photo art and some of her pictures would be perfect for my music "video" so I asked her if I could use a couple. She said yes and also that she had been looking for a song to make a stop-motion music video for but hadn't found anything that she thought fit until she heard Airstream in Space.
Another: I had been thinking it would be nice to be able to teach online classes at the University of Phoenix for a couple years because they probably offer many online classes which is what I'll probably have to teach exclusively when my band starts touring heavily. I actually applied for them a few years ago, with no response. The other weekend I noticed a meetup.com group I belong to (DINKS) was doing a really cool activity that I had been wanting to do (treetop adventure park) and I had not yet been to one of their meetups so I went. There, I met a nice guy who works for U of Phoenix and told me the Nashville campus is looking for more part-time teachers, including communication (my field).
I have been wanting to continue working on building my motivational speaker/teacher/life coaching career and was recently guided to meet an important person who I have a feeling will help my career (and has already offered a couple great opportunities). It was in an interesting, round-about way that it happened (aren't many of the paths and guidance from the universe this way?). (yes, I love parenthesis). I saw on a fun class-listing site that I used for my first Improve Your Life From the Inside Out class, a class a life coach was offering about the happiness myth. Well, you can imagine that caught my eye because that sounds like exactly the opposite of what I believe and teach. The class description intriegued me though and I thought, I have to meet this guy and have a discussion about this happiness stuff. So, we met for coffee and had a great conversation and he told me about a woman who just started a business doing essentially what I was just talking about wanting to start (after watching Lovetown, USA on the Oprah network)! Needless to say, I contacted her and we just met the other day. She is going to share her life coach curriculum with me and I, mine (for my Improve Your Life... Class). This will be a great help as I develop my class - perfect timing because my first class that Volunteer State Community College has agreed to let me teach through their continuing ed dept., starts next Tuesday! This woman also started editing and publishing a cool personal development magazine and said I could write an article in it if I wanted! So cool!
As if that weren't enough (yes, I have many balls I'm juggling but the universe allows me to do it all!) another thing came from my request from the universe for someone to want to help my band. The 2nd time we played in Atlanta recently, our friend who set the show up for us (who, incidentally, was running sound at our first show in ATL) and his friend mentioned maybe helping us too. The nice guy who was DJ'ing at that 2nd show liked us and asked us to play a future show he's putting together. See, you don't need a booking agent. You can get by with a little help from your friends. People you play with or who hear you who have the means to book you for a future show will do it because they like you and because they want to. Just like I want to help whoever I can whenever I can. What goes around, comes around.
Ok, you want one more? I have been teaching at Motlow State and Volunteer State community colleges the past year and a half and have been wanting to get a job at a college or university in Nashville (vs. 30-40 min. outside of town) and also because they pay a lot more that Motlow and Vol. St. I had filled out the online application and sent in my resume over a year ago but hadn't heard anything. About a month before the fall semester was to start, I got an email from the head of the communication department at TSU saying they needed some adjuncts to fill in some classes for the fall semester. Thank god I listened to my instincts earlier in the summer when I could have taken 6 classes (between Vol. St. and Motlot) but my intuition/guidance was that I should only sign up for 5 (which is actually considered full-time). I usually teach 6 classes a semester, and since I only had 5 lined up, I was able to take one at TSU. Apparently, a fellow adjunct who also teaches at Vol. St. and Motlow in the humanities dept., recommended me. Now that I have my foot in the door there, I can take the majority of classes there next semester.
All of this has happened within the last couple months!
It feels like I'm just riding the flow of the universe and it's taking me wherever I want to go and helping me in whatever way I need and supporting me in following whatever passionate desire I have.
Incidentally, I started this blog a couple years ago to document my life as I tested out the law of attraction to see if it really worked. In my quest to find out, I discovered something even better - the secret to how the universe really works!
Two of the key lessons I've learned: ask for guidance (from the universe, not your friend) and LISTEN to it and be open-minded to it and don't let the ego (fear) get in the way.
So... if you want to learn this "secret", let me know. I'm available for life coaching sessions on an individual basis and I also have a weekly radio show (for now) and will have a podcast up in the near future and will continue to teach my Improve Your Life... class around Nashville. Email me if you're interested in a coaching session or my class: meg.rox09@yahoo.com
(If you're reading this and you are one of the people I talk about, I'm SO glad I met you and THANK YOU for everything you've done to help me - even if it seemed small, you never know how much of an impact your actions will have on someone else. I couldn't have done anything without help. I get by with a little help from my friends... If we all help each other, we can move mountains!)
I have a habit of leaving my thumb drive in the computer in my classroom when I leave or it fell out of my bag on the way to school once, so Dave suggested I get one of those thumb drives that are attached to a keychain so if I forget it in the computer, I won't get far because my car keys would be on it. I was thinking about how I needed one of those and the next day, I had the notion to go through my briefcase in my bedroom that I haven't used in a year and has been collecting dust. It so happened that a keychain thumb drive was in the pocket of that briefcase. I had forgotten I had one of those!
Another instance: I have really been thinking about how my band needs people who want to help us achieve success, whether its in a small or big way. One way in particular we needed help in was making a music video. I couldn't wait, I wanted to get something up on youtube at least for the time being. I had the urge to start playing around with iMovie on my laptop and I was having fun putting photos and video clips to some of our songs. When I was doing it for one of our songs, Airstream in Space, a girl I know popped into my head. She creates cool space cat photo art and some of her pictures would be perfect for my music "video" so I asked her if I could use a couple. She said yes and also that she had been looking for a song to make a stop-motion music video for but hadn't found anything that she thought fit until she heard Airstream in Space.
Another: I had been thinking it would be nice to be able to teach online classes at the University of Phoenix for a couple years because they probably offer many online classes which is what I'll probably have to teach exclusively when my band starts touring heavily. I actually applied for them a few years ago, with no response. The other weekend I noticed a meetup.com group I belong to (DINKS) was doing a really cool activity that I had been wanting to do (treetop adventure park) and I had not yet been to one of their meetups so I went. There, I met a nice guy who works for U of Phoenix and told me the Nashville campus is looking for more part-time teachers, including communication (my field).
I have been wanting to continue working on building my motivational speaker/teacher/life coaching career and was recently guided to meet an important person who I have a feeling will help my career (and has already offered a couple great opportunities). It was in an interesting, round-about way that it happened (aren't many of the paths and guidance from the universe this way?). (yes, I love parenthesis). I saw on a fun class-listing site that I used for my first Improve Your Life From the Inside Out class, a class a life coach was offering about the happiness myth. Well, you can imagine that caught my eye because that sounds like exactly the opposite of what I believe and teach. The class description intriegued me though and I thought, I have to meet this guy and have a discussion about this happiness stuff. So, we met for coffee and had a great conversation and he told me about a woman who just started a business doing essentially what I was just talking about wanting to start (after watching Lovetown, USA on the Oprah network)! Needless to say, I contacted her and we just met the other day. She is going to share her life coach curriculum with me and I, mine (for my Improve Your Life... Class). This will be a great help as I develop my class - perfect timing because my first class that Volunteer State Community College has agreed to let me teach through their continuing ed dept., starts next Tuesday! This woman also started editing and publishing a cool personal development magazine and said I could write an article in it if I wanted! So cool!
As if that weren't enough (yes, I have many balls I'm juggling but the universe allows me to do it all!) another thing came from my request from the universe for someone to want to help my band. The 2nd time we played in Atlanta recently, our friend who set the show up for us (who, incidentally, was running sound at our first show in ATL) and his friend mentioned maybe helping us too. The nice guy who was DJ'ing at that 2nd show liked us and asked us to play a future show he's putting together. See, you don't need a booking agent. You can get by with a little help from your friends. People you play with or who hear you who have the means to book you for a future show will do it because they like you and because they want to. Just like I want to help whoever I can whenever I can. What goes around, comes around.
Ok, you want one more? I have been teaching at Motlow State and Volunteer State community colleges the past year and a half and have been wanting to get a job at a college or university in Nashville (vs. 30-40 min. outside of town) and also because they pay a lot more that Motlow and Vol. St. I had filled out the online application and sent in my resume over a year ago but hadn't heard anything. About a month before the fall semester was to start, I got an email from the head of the communication department at TSU saying they needed some adjuncts to fill in some classes for the fall semester. Thank god I listened to my instincts earlier in the summer when I could have taken 6 classes (between Vol. St. and Motlot) but my intuition/guidance was that I should only sign up for 5 (which is actually considered full-time). I usually teach 6 classes a semester, and since I only had 5 lined up, I was able to take one at TSU. Apparently, a fellow adjunct who also teaches at Vol. St. and Motlow in the humanities dept., recommended me. Now that I have my foot in the door there, I can take the majority of classes there next semester.
All of this has happened within the last couple months!
It feels like I'm just riding the flow of the universe and it's taking me wherever I want to go and helping me in whatever way I need and supporting me in following whatever passionate desire I have.
Incidentally, I started this blog a couple years ago to document my life as I tested out the law of attraction to see if it really worked. In my quest to find out, I discovered something even better - the secret to how the universe really works!
Two of the key lessons I've learned: ask for guidance (from the universe, not your friend) and LISTEN to it and be open-minded to it and don't let the ego (fear) get in the way.
So... if you want to learn this "secret", let me know. I'm available for life coaching sessions on an individual basis and I also have a weekly radio show (for now) and will have a podcast up in the near future and will continue to teach my Improve Your Life... class around Nashville. Email me if you're interested in a coaching session or my class: meg.rox09@yahoo.com
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