There seems to be a paradox in the law of attraction belief that you control your life and how it unfolds because your thoughts create your reality. I think a lot of people misunderstand the law of attraction. It doesn't mean you can have everything you want. I am sad to see people/books/media, such as the movie The Secret, give false, misleading information about what the law of attraction is really about. It is not some quick, easy thing that you use to start getting everything you want. The law of attraction is a simple concept, but following it can be very difficult and take a lot of work.
Here's how it works from my understanding. Your thoughts are telling the universe & God what you want and the universe will translate those thoughts into a reality that may be slightly (or majorly) different than what you imagined. I think the universe understands our feelings about what we want and not the specific details. The details don't matter anyway, as long as we achieve that feeling we want. For example, I imagine very vividly, the feeling I would feel performing to thousands of people in an arena. The amount of love in one space like that would be amazing and as long as I can be in a situation like that in the future, the details don't matter to me. I put out my desired feeling and give it up to the universe & God and trust that it/He will give me that or something better/bigger.
People frequently don't use the law of attraction correctly because of this point I think. People tend to think about all the details of a job/place/situation they desire and analyze the steps they think they need to take to get there. This is helpful, but the key is to think about what feeling you will feel being at that job/place/situation. If you can imagine what it will feel like for you, you're going to manifest it. If you tell yourself, it's such a lofty dream, I can't put myself in those shoes now and imagine what it would really feel like - then you're not going to manifest it.
If you feel you need to control how it happens, your ego is getting too involved. The ego is about control. The spirit is not. I talked a lot about this in a previous post I believe (and it was the topic of one of my radio shows). Here are a couple links if you're interested about learning more about the ego vs. spirit... http://www.lifecoachmary.com/issue36.htm and Eckhart Tolle's book A New Earth talks about this. Here's a video when Oprah did her online interview series with him... http://www.oprah.com/oprahsbookclub/Chapter-1-Oprah-and-Eckhart-Tolles-A-New-Earth-Webcast-Video
We have to give up control of the "how it's going to happen" because when we imagine how it's going to happen, we limit ourselves. Our imagination is limited. Why? It's usually influenced by our life experiences and perceptions of it and that can be limiting. We filter our perception through our own unique lens - our frame of reference which is affected by our past experience, thoughts of what we think we can achieve or what we think is possible based on what other people have achieved. The universe is way broader and expansive than we think and capable of giving us more than what we can imagine.
Maybe I don't really know or understand all of what the law of attraction teaches. There are so many people teaching about it but seemingly with their own perspective of what it means. I like to think that any limitations or inconsistencies people see in the law of attraction is just them not fully understanding it.
I'd love to hear your thoughts/comments!
